Love is..

There is this girl and this boy.

They stayed in a small town and studied together.

He is a North Indian Oriya boy and she is a South Indian Kannadiga girl. But both are brought up in South India.

They both started liking each other.

They moved to a bigger city for job purposes and dreamt of spending their lives together.

No, I am not narrating here the story of Chetan Bhagat’s “2 States”.

But this story is more or less on the same lines. Except that the climax and ending of their story is still waiting to be crafted by their respectable elders.

Cut to the story..

Boy tells his parents about the girl and his family is dead against this alliance.

Reason?

She is a Kannadiga, speaks a different language has a different culture, upbringing and life style. Moreover she does not belong to his caste and community. The daughters of boy’s family have a lot of liberty and freedom. They are highly educated, intelligent girls, working in reputed companies. They also have had love marriages, but the boys were from the same caste and community. This boy of whom I am talking of is the youngest and most timid of all siblings. He doesn’t want to hurt his parents and move out and marry the girl. The girl doesn’t want to marry against the wishes of her parents and his parents either.

Kare to kya kare?

Convincing his mom is going to be a herculean task. She is an ardent follower of God and worships him very much.  But she is not ready to accept a girl from another community, who is also created by the God himself. She has stopped talking to her son upon learning that he wants to get married to the girl. Her anger is justified to a certain extent, but if it is going to keep the boy and the girl and herself unhappy, she has to decide how far she should go in this matter.

I feel sad when I look at the boy. He has become so sullen and depressed that he just thinks what is going to happen in future?

But will just thinking and pondering help? If he really loves the girl and wants to settle with her, he has to take some steps. Either convince his mom or move ahead without her consent. I am sure she will mellow down with time. Which mother forever remains angry on her son? The girl which she has chosen is from a good family, has a good educational background and is working in a reputed MNC. What more does one look in a girl? The customs, rituals, habits can be explained to her after marriage and she can also be assimilated in his community.

Why are castes and communities and religions so important than bonding of 2 individuals?

I know so many couples who have different backgrounds, but now complement each other so well that is difficult to make out if they are really different from each other.

Doesn’t love help to grow as a person and learn to make adjustments and even sacrifices at times? Staying away from each other for the family’s sake is going to be a big sacrifice for this boy and girl and I just hope that they take a decision together which will be good for their future as a couple rather than which is good for their families. After all, they want to spend their lives with each other.

I had heard that love conquers all.. Not everytime..

Perhaps, for some people, their family status, their beliefs and community status is above everything else and not the joy of their offsprings.

Love is..

Complicated..