A new innings

 Getting back to work almost after 8 months is little difficult.

Managing 12 hours outside home when you have a baby at home is all the more difficult. But every working mother goes through this some or the other time. And there are quite a few challenges in this new role of a working mother. There are a quite a few friends of mine who have given up their careers for the sake of bringing up their own children. They might have not got or asked for any help from their parents or in-laws owing to circumstances and they might be also reluctant to send their kids to the creche. Moreover, they might want to be there in every moment of their child's development. I really respect such women. Being at home for the kid 24/7 and adjusting days, months and years together around the child's routine is really something. I had this experience for a month when I was alone with Tanay in Germany. I will admit here that I had also fancied the idea of taking a long break and looking after Tanay for at least 2 years and then start looking for opportunities, but then once you are out of touch and out of the circle, you are lost. Thanks to my hubby, he encouraged me to take up a good opportunity and I got back to work again.

It was difficult initially for the idea to sink in that I will have to leave Tanay and go to office. I thought, he won't miss me or recognize me. But that was again a fancy thing to think. How can a baby not miss or recognize his own mother? He would take some time to establish the idea of mom and dad and they not being around, but he will definitely acknowledge their presence once they are in front of his eyes. How stupid my thinking was! Being able to work and earn and be independent is definitely a wonderful feeling. Being able to earn in a field which you really like is a blessing in itself. You not only enjoy it, but at the end of the day, you leave the office with a feeling that I am doing something which does not seem work at all!

Being able to earn also helps you in providing the best for your kid, be it education or toys or clothes. As parents, we both are not very inclined towards providing high end and branded clothes and toys to our baby. Simple, uncomplicated and useful things impart the same knowledge as flossy, flashy things or toys do is our way of looking at it. This generation being very quick to learn and adaptive to changes is going to keep us on our toes and bringing them up is going to be a challenge of very different kind for us. The moral values have to be instilled very carefully in them as they will question every statement of ours. We never asked our parents the question why, but the same can't be expected from our kids. They will need an explanation for every thing we say and do and we have to carefully choose our words and actions. To get this to the children that though both the parents are earning, it is not easy money but hard earned money and I can't get everything and anything that comes out of my mouth is going to be very tough for the parents of our generation, I think. That is the reason it is said, bringing up a child is not a child's play. It requires a proper balance of good values and morals and habits. It requires immense patience and a will to make your child a good human being. Shining academically may or may not be possible for every kid, but helping him become a good human being is definitely in every parent's hands.

Let's all pray that the generation to come is fully equipped with all the good values, morals, positive energy to fight the vices and the wrong doers and emerge victorious in their respective fields. A lot of responsibility lies on our shoulders!!