This time it was different.
I had come thrice earlier to Germany, but in different roles. I had come here twice as a student and once after marriage, but before Tanay arrived. This time, I was a full time mother looking after my 5 months old son. And this was altogether a different experience.
Managing him alone without any help from the family members, friends was a great learning for me. Of course, Atul was biggest help. In the initial days, he cooked for us, made us feel at home by doing most of the things, he also went shopping for us. Once, I got into routine, I took over the cooking part and a little shopping part too. Due to which, I could take Tanay out for a ride and get him some fresh air. He immensely enjoyed those rides and smiled at everyone he saw. The Germans here were little surprised by his babbles, because usually German kids are given soothers all the time and I have hardly seen them cry or whine or talk in public. But this fellow enjoyed every little attention he got from the Germans. Especially the older generation, the grandmoms and grandpas came to talk to him and to see him. He smiled back to them and talked to them in his own sweet language.
Back at home, it was just Tanay and me from the time Atul went to office and came back in the evening. I am sure, Tanay must have felt bored seeing one face all the time. I tried in every possible way to enterian him, talk to him, play with him, sing him to sleep. There were other Indian families in the building, but they had their own routines and we hardly saw each other. I waited eagerly for Atul to come back every single evenning so that there was a third person at home and there was some interaction and noise in the house. I felt the pinch of absence of my near and dear ones greatly. In Bangalore, there were so many people around and also in the house and here suddenly there was just me, Tanay and Atul. But it completed our family, which was the biggest plus point of me coming here with Tanay. I even asked Atul, how on the earth he managed to stay alone all these months in this place. He said, he often thought of us and he talked to Tanay in his absence and told him all the things that happened during the day. I found it so heartening!
There is certain tinge of loneliness here unless you go out and work or have a really nice interacting group with whom you can talk and meet on daily basis. For a people person like me, this one month was of extreme patience and perseverance. I bonded with my son and my hubby, we were finally together after a very long time, which was the only and the biggest thing which helped me survive here.
Once my work starts, perhaps, I would be able to find other plus points of living here too! But as long as my son and my husband are with me, everything else should be secondary!
Amen!
I had come thrice earlier to Germany, but in different roles. I had come here twice as a student and once after marriage, but before Tanay arrived. This time, I was a full time mother looking after my 5 months old son. And this was altogether a different experience.
Managing him alone without any help from the family members, friends was a great learning for me. Of course, Atul was biggest help. In the initial days, he cooked for us, made us feel at home by doing most of the things, he also went shopping for us. Once, I got into routine, I took over the cooking part and a little shopping part too. Due to which, I could take Tanay out for a ride and get him some fresh air. He immensely enjoyed those rides and smiled at everyone he saw. The Germans here were little surprised by his babbles, because usually German kids are given soothers all the time and I have hardly seen them cry or whine or talk in public. But this fellow enjoyed every little attention he got from the Germans. Especially the older generation, the grandmoms and grandpas came to talk to him and to see him. He smiled back to them and talked to them in his own sweet language.
Back at home, it was just Tanay and me from the time Atul went to office and came back in the evening. I am sure, Tanay must have felt bored seeing one face all the time. I tried in every possible way to enterian him, talk to him, play with him, sing him to sleep. There were other Indian families in the building, but they had their own routines and we hardly saw each other. I waited eagerly for Atul to come back every single evenning so that there was a third person at home and there was some interaction and noise in the house. I felt the pinch of absence of my near and dear ones greatly. In Bangalore, there were so many people around and also in the house and here suddenly there was just me, Tanay and Atul. But it completed our family, which was the biggest plus point of me coming here with Tanay. I even asked Atul, how on the earth he managed to stay alone all these months in this place. He said, he often thought of us and he talked to Tanay in his absence and told him all the things that happened during the day. I found it so heartening!
There is certain tinge of loneliness here unless you go out and work or have a really nice interacting group with whom you can talk and meet on daily basis. For a people person like me, this one month was of extreme patience and perseverance. I bonded with my son and my hubby, we were finally together after a very long time, which was the only and the biggest thing which helped me survive here.
Once my work starts, perhaps, I would be able to find other plus points of living here too! But as long as my son and my husband are with me, everything else should be secondary!
Amen!
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