Ideal and perfect? A myth

There is no ideal marriage.
There is no ideal man or a woman.

There are no perfect sons and daughters.
There are no perfect couples.

If we all were perfect and ideal, why would we have taken birth on this earth? We all have our own baggage, a set of values, virtues, and goals to achieve. We all know we all have our own personal struggles, our own personal demons to fight, our own weaknesses to overcome. If we knew everything and could do everything perfectly, we would have ideally sat in heaven doing nothing and enjoying the fruits of labor. But because we are here, we are constantly striving towards perfection, towards becoming an ideal wife or a daughter or a mother, for example.

What's the measure of being ideal or being the best? Of being perfect? We always compare ourselves with someone whom we think is better than us in some aspects and we strive to become someone like him or her. In that pursuit, I think we lose our own identity and forget who and how we really are. We try to do things to please others, to be in someone's good books and then we really stop feeling and believing in the real us.

Embrace the imperfections. Accept them, don't be proud of them, but be humble and try to seek happiness and joy in whatever you do. Just because others think you should learn and do something to be better versions of your own self, don't blindly follow them, feel bad about your shortcomings, fret and fume and blame yourself for it and lose your peace of mind. You are a wonderful human being just the way you are. The "ideal" and "perfect" stamps given by others should not determine your self-worth.

Be good and true to yourself first. Then think of others. You can't really satisfy everyone around you and make them happy. You should be self-confident and then the world is yours to conquer.