A person say C, who is very close to you and shares a
lot with you, who is a very close relative, but more like a family, suddenly
decides to stop interacting with you due to some misunderstanding and cuts off
all the contact with you for many years. He/she doesn’t bother to keep a tab of
any proceedings in your life and one fine day, after 7 years, he/she decides to
come back into your life and asks you to forget everything that happened in the
past and urges you to start a new chapter with all ‘goody goody’ relations.
My initial reaction would be ‘WOW’!!! After snapping
all the ties with you for no fault of yours, how can a person expect you to
accept his/her comeback into your life so easily and normally? I would be
extremely skeptical of this move and would really think twice before even
deciding to act and behave ‘normally’. What if that person again construes some
misunderstanding about you and walks out again. What are you reduced to then? A
person whom anyone can approach and be talked out to act normally and then
again leave you in lurch? Definitely, you wouldn’t want to feel stupid for
accepting and behaving nicely with the person who wronged you, isn’t it?
Beyond the initial skepticism, I would then relish on
the feeling that the person C has at least made an attempt and has come out of
hibernation and has accepted that there was something amiss in his life. It
requires tremendous efforts to accept the wrong behavior and to be able to
correct it. Maybe he repents now, maybe he feels bad that he cut those people
from his life, without whom he could not really enjoy whatever was happening in
his life till now. Maybe his mind was gnawing at him for his actions and he felt
the need to correct them and then be at peace with himself.
After all, there is only one life and only one chance
to be happy and satisfied with whatever one does in the life. I would also give
it a try, provided that person C approaches me. But, the love and the respect
and the affection may not be same as it used to be once.
Nevertheless, the attempt has been made which is a
sign of progression, isn’t it?
i think depends on ur relation with tht person....i would hv felt annoyed to hv him/her bk in my life out of blue sky but sometimes it happens to u tht u hv certain connection with some people... unconsciously... tht u tend to think n rethink abt it n eventually feel tht yes i wanna talk to him/ her .....again....
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