27 July 2012

Some unsolved mysteries

No, I am not writing any detective story or any thriller here.

I will try to address the mystery which intrigues me a lot after becoming a mother.

When I got to know that I am expecting, I went for an ultrasound and saw a little dot throbbing with full force. The foetus was just 8 weeks old and fast forward to June 2012, my baby was born and he was 8 weeks old too. The journey from the time the foetus began to breathe till my baby arrived in this world was just amazing. Science today tells us what all happens inside the womb and how a baby is formed. But there are still many things which science can't explain even today.

Do small babies have thoughts? What exactly happens when they start taking cognizance of the world in which they are born? What exactly runs through their minds when they see the people they are familiar with? When in womb, babies are known to be smiling. Why? What exactly is the process happening at that time? Even after the baby is born, they just smile and cry out of the blue. Why? Yes, most of the times, they are hungry or sleepy. But my boy gets up from the sleep crying very bitterly and he is inconsolable many a times. Only after cajoling, talking to him, singing to him, he calms down. God alone knows what he sees in his sleep. He also laughs while asleep. And then the next moment, he curls his lips, frowns and gives a big cry. I wish I could understand the meaning behind his sudden sprout of crying. My mother-in-law says that they see some people/things from their previous births and that often frightens and saddens them. I do not know if I should believe this, but there is no evident reason, but it also can't be ever found out even by extensive research. A human baby can never be formed outside human body, even though science progresses to still greater extent.

Why is one baby more active than the other? What decides when will the baby turn on his stomach or when he will move forward? How does the baby suddenly start to utter sounds? Is it already wired in the brain? Or again God whispers in their ears and asks them to achieve the milestones? Hard to contest this argument, but it can definitely not be proved by anyone that god does this or has no role in all this. There are certain truths which everybody can see, but can't be proved by anyone in this world.

I am highly inquisitive about this behaviour in babies, rather from the conception till death; it is a series of events which often leaves us in awe of the computer who has carved every person differently. The first few years are very formative and they lay the foundation for the next years in life. But then how does a baby move ahead with a certain temperament from the birth itself? Whatever we become in life is partially based on inherited genes and partially on the experiences we gain. But then why are genes stronger in some people and why is some other person's character purely made out of experience though he has good/bad genes? It is again inexplicable. The mathematics here is always not two plus two amounting to four.

Perhaps there is no answer to my questions right now, but in future, we might be able to find proper explanation for these things. Perhaps not and that will be something which will be still in the hands of that Almighty so that we believe in some power and admit that there is someone superior to us.  

21 July 2012

The glorious moment

As I mentioned in my earlier posts, we have no track of time and days and months whatsoever.

Our day starts with Tanay and ends with Tanay. There is hardly anything else in our agenda and why should it be? With a 3 months old baby in the house, nothing else should really matter.

Last week, we had guests from Mumbai. My mom-in-law's mother, aged 82, her sister and brother-in-law visited us in Bangalore to meet Tanay. As the original plan of we going to Mumbai and Pune got scrapped, they decided to come over to see my baby. And that week was like a bonus to Tanay. Anyways, we were 5 people in the house already and these 3 made it even merrier for him. He enjoyed a lot, laughed a lot with them and gave them a nice time.

My grandmother, my dad's mother, aged 86 is with me since a month and a half now and with the arrival of another great grandmother of Tanay, we decided to hold a small ceremony for both of them and Tanay. In Maharashtrians, it is a custom that when a great grandchild is born, his/her great grandmother/-father shower flowers made of gold on him as it is believed that it is a golden moment for both of them. It is a rare phenomenon in earlier days, but nowadays, I have seen many families who have 4 generations intact.

So on a week day, we dressed up Tanay with new clothes and also asked his great grandmothers to put on their best saris. Then he was given in their laps and along with few grains, small golden flowers were showered on Tanay by them. I managed to click that moment and it will be forever etched in my memory. Tanay is really lucky that his old great grandmothers could see him and bless him with their love and affection. That photo is going to be a souvenir and I hope one day Tanay will be able to show his grandchildren, the portrait with his great grandmothers!

Amen!  





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